I just sent you a private message before I saw this post because I saw you were online.... sorry to bug you....
The last part of you answer is my grey area, I think

...
This is how I understand it, hopefully I am saying the same thing that you are
#85 goes to the ground point on the frame
to the relay coil
# 30 gets a 10 amp fuse and goes to the power from the starter
solenoid, battery side.
# 86 goes to the female side of the red/yellow wire in the harness
to the other connection of the coil in the relay.
#87 goes to the male sides of the wires previously in the harness, going into the coils
Yep that completes the circuit to the coils.
#87a gets nothing (I get a 5 pint relay)
I hope that is what you are saying....
i am sorry for so many questions... just want to get it right....
Thanks for your help and patience.....