Wow, now my situation isn't half that bad. My kid has chosen many times to live with me. My BF is a consistency in his life, a more stricter role model, and although my son's been fighting it, he's slowly warming up to him. I think all children need to have that "fear/respect" for the adults in their lives. And my son has none for his father. I know as he gets older, my son will see the man his father really is, and he'll eventually realize that I was always consistent and firm because I care about him. Its just hard waiting until he's old enough to realize that. But the fact that, when his father asked him if he wanted to live with him, my son told him no. He told his father, "Daddy I love you, but my home is with Mama in Maine." It crushed his father, but made me so proud. I'm the stricter parent, I have more rules he must abide by, and I'm raising him to be responsible for his actions. But I think, even at 8 years old, he's come to recognize that living with me is best for him.
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