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Ladies, a moto friend and I were discussing the reception we receive upon meeting other female riders. You know the scenario: you pull into the gas pumps and see another woman on her bike. You take your helmet off and wander over to say "hello" and exchange pleasantries. What happens then? Is this person usually friendly? Or do you feel a certain chill in the air at times? If there is an aloofness, do you suspect it has anything to do with the brand of motorcycle each of you is riding?

I live way out in the boonies, away from large cities. There are very few women who ride around here--unless it's a horse, horses far outnumber motorcycles. Those I have met usually seem pretty haughty to me, and I have to wonder why. I always try to be polite and friendly, not overbearing, nosy, or annoying. But I make it a point to acknowledge another woman riding.

I ride various sportbikes and a confused Beemer now, but I had the same reaction when I owned cruisers (by turns, a Honda, a Harley-Davidson, a Suzuki, and a Yamaha.) I shower each morning and use mouthwash, and my mom tried to instill the basic social graces in me. What's up with this? Could it be the manifestation that a friend refers to as "The Queen Bee Syndrome?" It's that old, devisive enemy of sisterhood, where a woman who has gained recognition from doing something special and unusual--like riding a motorcycle--feels competitive with or threatened by other female riders.

What have been your experiences? Hopefully they are happier than mine.

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It seems to depend on what their age is and what they ride. If they're too young, they're always with their boyfriends and don't want to chat with me. If they ride a Harley, they never talk to me, they purposely ignore me - which I could care a less. It's the Beemer female riders who always seem to actually snub me.

Older women in their mid 30's to mid 40's always seem very pleasant to me (name and phone # exchange). Although, I've only met a handful of these women. How I truly wish there were more.

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I just found this topic, and it came to mind, since mikimoto mentioned Harley riders... what is it with these people? Is like, if your don't ride a Harley you shouldn't ride at all? They usually look at you like you're just a wanna be or something.
You know, when I see another rider I like to wave, to aknowledge the person, after all we have something in common. But sometimes even men give you the evil look.
Honestly I haven't seen a lot of women riders in this part. But I think it would be really cool to have a group of female riders, no matter what their ride is.
jetgal is right, I thing that sometimes it has to do with jelousy for doing something that they thought they were the only ones doing...
 

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I know there are female cycle enthusiasts here...I just haven't yet gotten up the courage (and riding skills) needed to go meet them. *sigh* Someday I'll be ready...
 

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Hi jetgal!

Where do you live? I'm over on the eastern side, in Fort Collins. I've never really noticed other women riders not being friendly. I don't always go over to talk to them, but I always nod hello. I've gotten into a few conversations with women, though. I have to agree that the ones who are usually the least friendly are the HD riders. I wish that weren't so. I have lots of friends who ride HDs and they aren't like that. But there will always be snooty people, unfortunately.

We belong to a riding club that's made up mostly of people who ride BMWs (our first bike was a Beemer). There are quite a few women in the club, and they couldn't care less what we ride. We all get along great.
 

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I've just been riding about a month or so and haven't really met up with other female riders on the road. I do *know of* a few and they would be approachable. On the topic of Harley riders... I've waved at few that waved back. Some have literally turned away from me like my Vulcan is an affront their very senses. Then there is the custom chopper guys. Well, what can I say about them in a nice way??? Nothing, really. They're A**holes. Of course, this is all my very own opinion.
 

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Ooohhhhh the Chopper Guys.... they're all soooo... Paul Sr (if U know what I mean...)
You know, is so funny and silly at the same time... the different reactions that I've experienced since I bougth my first ride. I had a Honda Rebel, so all those guys in big, all cromed up, noisy bikes wouldn't return my wave, this happened mostly in the city. Then when I went on trips, it didn't happend that often, but still I got a few riders ignoring me. Oh boy, the first time I felt so bad, but then, I thought: hey, that kind of people didn't buy a bike for the pure joy of riding one, they got it for the look, to show off, so they're not real riders, at least not in my book.
Now that I have my Kawi, I see that many people on cruisers don't even look at me, is like I'm their worst enemy.
Like I said, different bikes, different reactions, and some of them are sooo silly and inmature.

Sassy Chassis said:
I'd say I have between 4-5 hours on my bike total! ;)
Girl, what are you waiting for? You need to get out there and ride all over town! UR right, that's not enought yet to join a group, but if U don't ride, U won't be able to join them any time soon.
Practice, practice, practice!!!
 

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CRusa said:
I just found this topic, and it came to mind, since mikimoto mentioned Harley riders... what is it with these people? Is like, if your don't ride a Harley you shouldn't ride at all? They usually look at you like you're just a wanna be or something.
I've learned Harley riders (and honestly cruiser riders in general) will not wave to someone on a sportbike. VERY RARELY they will, but more often than not, they won't, even to reciprocate.

I wish I knew why.....It kinda ticks me off. I've just gotten to where I'm comfortable enough to take my hand off to wave to passing bikes, and I kinda get annoyed when I wave and they don't. :evil: It's like, we're all a part of the same community, we just have different styles of enjoying it, so why the snobbery?
 

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I have noticed the same. I'll get more waves when I'm riding with my DH because he has a cruiser and is usually in the lead position. I look at it this way. Maybe I just rocked some cruiser rider's world because they got a wave from a sport rider :p
 

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Girl, what are you waiting for? You need to get out there and ride all over town! UR right, that's not enought yet to join a group, but if U don't ride, U won't be able to join them any time soon.
Practice, practice, practice!!!
Yeah, I know! However, sometimes "life" takes over and you have to do other stuff or there are weather issues. No worries though, I think I'm progressing well...actually I'm doing better than I thought I would.

Oh, and the first day we rode to get breakfast we talked to some "cruiser" (I can't remember if they were Harleys or not) types, a man and a woman. They parked their cycles next to us and were very pleasant to talk to. No snobbery there. I think they thought I was silly because I was so giddy about it being my "first official ride anywhere" and I told them they were now a part of my motorcycle history :mrgreen:
 

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When I got my first ride I would practice for one hour every day. I did this for a week, then the following week I started going to work on my bike. That was my 'practice', since the traffic is really slow (and annoying) here in DC. Then on the weekends I would take the bike out for a quick trip, some 15 to 20 miles... until I felt confortable enough to go out on highways and longer trips; being the longest one to Shannandoha Park (some 200+ miles in a single day). So c'mon girl, take advantage of that beautiful machine sitting there in your garaga/driveway... Spring is here!!!!

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I've learned Harley riders (and honestly cruiser riders in general) will not wave to someone on a sportbike. VERY RARELY they will, but more often than not, they won't, even to reciprocate.
I wish I knew why.....It kinda ticks me off. I've just gotten to where I'm comfortable enough to take my hand off to wave to passing bikes, and I kinda get annoyed when I wave and they don't. It's like, we're all a part of the same community, we just have different styles of enjoying it, so why the snobbery?
I feel exactly the same way... for all I care, we are all riders, sometimes I even wave to people on them Scooters... they're bikes!
This kind of cruiser riders seem like bikes for them are a Status symbol, more that anything else. And so we poor [email protected]$$tards that ride sports bikes, don't deserve a hello...
WHATEVER!!!:tongue:
 

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Yep, spring is here...and we have house repairs to do :( Yesterday after work was all about shoveling dirt and replacing sewer pipe.
 

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When I first started riding on the street, in 1981, every few days on the way home from work I'd see this woman on a BMW with an Aerostitch type suit going the other way. Eventually, she noticed me and we'd always wave or nod. Finally one day, I sat in a parking lot on her side of the street and waited for her to come by. I pulled out after her and when I caught up, motioned for her to pull over. We traded numbers, made plans to go on a ride and struck up a great friendship for the next several years. I would have never chased a guy down like that. :shock:

I see a lot of women on cruisers and a whole lot of women on Beemers and if I run into one at a gas station or somewhere, I think there's always some sort of special connection or mutual respect thing going on even if it's non-verbal. It does always somehow seem that being on the same general type of bike, being dressed properly and being about the same age does make the chance of a friendly exchange more likely. As far as that goes, in meeting a woman on a Harley in a tank top and no helmet, chances are that I'll be the one doing the snubbing. :oops:

Although I do 95% of my riding solo, most of the time that I see other women riding they are with their boyfriends or husbands or with a group of guys. Back in the mid-80's before I started racing, I used to regularly ride with a pack of 5 or 6 other gals and when we'd stop together for lunch or gas, we kind of drew other women riders and even women passengers over to talk. Safety in numbers, I guess?

How about guys being stupid or condescending? I was out riding the twisties on Saturday down a road that eventually turns into dirt. It's a popular motorcycle road and folks usually u-turn at the end of the asphalt and take a break on a little hill. There's six or seven bikes there when I pull up in the middle of them and take my helmet off. Everyone is friendly and starts chatting but right away this one guy, about my age on a RS BMW, asks me if I rode all the way out there by myself. I was kinda like "what tha.." Am I supposed to need somebody to escort me or something? I simply answered him, "yeah". I don't think he'd have asked another guy if he was out riding by himself. It was just a moment and everybody was very nice but it just kind of stuck with me. (I didn't mention the 13 state, 11,000 mile, 3 week trip I took alone on my Gold Wing in '98 :-D He might not been able to handle it?)

...Diane
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on the hill taking a break...not my bike


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I wave at everybody when I'm out of the city
sorry, long post. Late night and rambling mind to blame
 

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on the hill taking a break...not my bike
Nice pic! I get homesick for Arizona sometimes...lived up in Prescott from 94-2000. It sucks to be back here in the flatlands when you're used to having windy roads 10 minutes from your house :icon_frow
 

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E.Diane said:
this one guy, about my age on a RS BMW, asks me if I rode all the way out there by myself. (I didn't mention the 13 state, 11,000 mile, 3 week trip I took alone on my Gold Wing in '98 :-D He might not been able to handle it?)
That's the kind of macho attitude that we don't need...You know what my answer to his question would have been? "Yeah... and you???

Now that you mention a lady on a BMW... last year when I had my Rebel, there was this lady that would pull out of the parking lot right across from where I had my bike, but she seemed to have some kind of neck problems, because she never turned my way to nod or anything, not even when I parked right next to her a couple times. Finally I just gave up, if you think you're better that somebody else just because you ride a bike, or a CERTAIN type of bike, you're not the type of person that I want to be friends with.
The only time I've tried joining a group of female riders was with Women on Wheels, but unfortunately something happened there, because they haven't updated their website, or replied to my numerous e-mails.

HeY!! At least we all get along just fine in this forum!!!:smile:
 

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Actually the Harley riders are the wannabees----if you have mastered the sport bike---you have greater riding skills---as the sport bike is a more demanding machine.

You could jump off your bike and ride off on their Harley no problem----the same can't be said the other way around.

I've even had gf's/dates that wouldn't get on my bike because it wasn't a Harley---no help for the clueless I guess.

Even if I was into cruisers--if definitely wouldn't be a over priced Harley POS----rather be ridin then wrenchin.


Here's an old joke you gal's might like----What's the difference between a Harley and a Hoover??? The position of the dirtbag---lololololol
 

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Actually the Harley riders are the wannabees----if you have mastered the sport bike---you have greater riding skills---as the sport bike is a more demanding machine.

You could jump off your bike and ride off on their Harley no problem----the same can't be said the other way around.

I've even had gf's/dates that wouldn't get on my bike because it wasn't a Harley---no help for the clueless I guess.

Even if I was into cruisers--if definitely wouldn't be a over priced Harley POS----rather be ridin then wrenchin.
Whoah... hostile much?

Hey, Harleys aren't my bike of choice, and I'll poke fun at them every now and then, but to suggest because someone chooses a different brand of bike than you makes them a less-skilled rider is assinine (not to mention ignorant).

Maybe the girls/dates that wouldn't get on your bike opted not to because of the pilot, not the bike. Just a thought! :biggrin:
 

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I used to ride to work in 1982-1985, and I never, ever saw another woman rider! Of course, that was in a small city, and there weren't many women riders back then, period.

I have to say that around here we get lots of waves. Yes, even from HD riders. :) And even guys on choppers! My husband rides a sport/touring bike, and he's always in front of me. He gets the same waves I get. I always wave at the sportbikers. I tend to think that the part of the country you live in largely determines how friendly people are about waving.
 
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