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#21 ·
I stopped riding regularly when I got married, I had a few dirt bikes and ATV's but got bored with them quickly. When I told the wife I wanted a motorcycle she said no. I brought it up a few more times and always got "no". So I found a used bike for $400 and just bought it. She hated it, but could see I enjoyed it so she just let it go and figured I would tire of it. I never tired of riding so she excepted it. When gas prices started going higher and higher, she started telling her co-workers how much we saved by me commuting on the bike instead of in my truck. Now she just watches me bring in a different bike and just shakes her head. She has her things and I have mine, neither of us has to like them but we respect them. If I had waited for her to agree I'd still be waiting.
 
#22 ·
Sign up for & take the MSF To show her you are safety conscious & want to learn correctly. Read all the bike mags you can & leave them all over the house & refuse to let her throw them away. Go to motorcycle rallys just to "look around" even though you don't have a bike. Get her to go with you so she can listen to the band & drink a few if she wants. In the meantime pic out your bike. If she goes to a rally with you, then it's time to take her by the dealer just to show her somethin of course.

It only took me about a year! If all else fails, get her drunk & go buy it real fast before she sobers up!!





 
#23 ·
Thats how I got 3 bikes and a quad now!!! :)

Got to love women!!!! :) :)

Dave

spok said:
three weeks ago when I told my wife i was considering buying a V2k, she said...."go ahead, you always get what you want anyway"

then the night of its arrival to my garage, she said "why don't you just keep em both"

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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#26 ·
stangst: I love your post...you ask us for advice on how to convince your wife to let you ride by writing 3 paragraphs to us on how careful you're gonna be and why you want to ride. Sorry dude...you're preaching to the choir in here!;)

I turned 39 this last June so I understand your situation completely...in a nutshell, this is what I did (it wasn't planned, but it worked out):

For a month I b!tched about gas prices and how I wanted to get a bike for commuting and my then fiance (now wife since late June) would laugh me off. I started to point out potential bikes on the street and said, "Yup, that's what I want, a 750 GSXR". She asked what that was and that's when I familiarized her with engine sizes and bike types and their relative abilities (you know, 750, really fast--1400 light speed). After a month of pointing out riders and bikes in parking lots she was starting to get fed up. As a side note, during this month I went from complete motorcycle idiot to becoming an informed consumer and realized that anything bigger than a 500 would probably get me killed in a week...hence my desire to get a 750 went down to a 500 as a first bike in two week's time.

Then in the evening on May 10, 2006 my then fiance got a call from me asking her if she could drive my car back from the dealership and she was shocked to say the least. After a few seconds of silence she asked, "What did you get?". I told her a Ninja 500R and she said, "That's the small bike for beginners, right?". I told her that she was right and she said, "Okay, pick me up". She thought the bike looked nice and I asked her to help me pick out gear because I didn't have any. She got into helping me with the gear and this was the first time I ever had her be concerned about something other than looks when it came to clothing of any kind. (Please note that I went to the dealership on a whim to look at bikes only and had no intention of purchasing...but hey, when you see a good deal on a used bike, you take it!)

I followed-up the purchase by getting a learner's permit in a few days and then took the MSF course a month later and got my M1 license a month after that. My wife saw that I was doing everything that I could to protect myself so she's "okay" with the idea of the bike now.

So now she laughs at me telling our friends how she thought that I was going to crash on the way home that night when she followed me home from the dealership. So it worked out, kinda...she won't let me go on a weekend ride to do the twisties with friends and she swears that I'm not getting a 650R in a couple years used or not. But I have to time work on that...

So maybe familiarizing your wife with bikes and then blindsiding her with a purchase is the way to go because you're never going to convince her.
 
#28 ·
eidian said:
So maybe familiarizing your wife with bikes and then blindsiding her with a purchase is the way to go because you're never going to convince her.
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Don't familiarize her too much because when the 650 is where the 500 now sits and she says, "is that the same bike", you can always say "sure is"
 
#30 ·
Svetlana said:
Ah yes... the answer to all of men's dilemma's with the ladies :tongue:
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Svet darlin, we gotta have somethin! You ladies got the low cut this & the high cut that & the come & get me look & so on & so on. Now you wouldn't begrudge us gettin ya a little drunk every now & then would ya??That just wouldn't seem fair now, would it?? :-(


 
#31 ·
Stang:
Since us guys have no idea how to "read" women, I asked my wife what she thought it would take to get your wife to agree to the bike.

She recommended taking out a substantial life insurance policy on yourself.

Hmmm, now I wonder why I can't seem to find that slow leak in my tires?
 
#33 ·
pitchinguy said:
Svet darlin, we gotta have somethin! You ladies got the low cut this & the high cut that & the come & get me look & so on & so on. Now you wouldn't begrudge us gettin ya a little drunk every now & then would ya??That just wouldn't seem fair now, would it?? :-(


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Svet's advice on the above: a lady worth having fun with doesn't need a man's help liquoring up... she can handle that one for herself ;)
 
#35 ·
This is a general problem. In most cases wives do not accect an idea of riding (unfortunatelly =/). But nothing critical in this case. I had some "extrem" hobbies such as rock climbing and paragliding and was able to get an _agrement_ with my wives. Just do not hurry and make a scandal. This way is not good. You can lose everything. At first, you should to undrestand that it can take 2-3 months, maybe more. However, it is a good point: it is enough to understand by yourself, is it really needed to you. Than go ahead, you can find a lot of positive aspects, for examle:
1) Gasoline saving
2) Your driving become better
3) You will spend more time on nature
4) You will less drinking ;)
You can continue ;)
Do, during this period wives accepts an idea that you will have bike step by step and they are not able to avoid that. Moreover, this is not so bad ...

However, if say honestly, bikes are poising life in many families. My wife has a schoolmate in Danmark. She is married for some professor. This _dumb_ professor started riding we he turned 50. After that she cannot live quite ...

Anyway, you have to be ready to the tough choice: either bike or wife...
 
#36 ·
I don't know what to say here. I guess my hubby's lucky because I'm pretty accepting of his hobbies. Want to go shooting? Alright I want a Glock. Racing cars? Yep, I want my own. Riding again? Time for me to get a bike.

Keeps the love strong! ;)
 
#38 ·
my wife hated the Idea but economics said that it was the most logical means of transportation..

I saved tons on gas even compared to a toyota corolla... saved on insurance.. saved on parking fees... was able to work longer cause I was able to lane split and get to my destinations much faster than otherwise...
I also got to spend more time with her because of the same reason...

she still did not agree... the she said that I controlled all the money and made all the money decissions.. (I was the one working and had no means of transportation and whenever I asked her for a ride she would complain about having to give me one)

a few months after I got the bike we filed for a divorce... ofcourse the bike was not the only issue... but this time instead of getting us clossed by her getting used to it and giving in and trying (key word here) and getting closer we actually grew farther appart.

to this day she still doesnt like me riding on a bike...

Now I am back in my parents house and going back to college to finish my degree.

My mom who always said that I would never own a bike while I lived under her roof had the chance to keep me off bikes when my other bike crapped out.

She understands that it is dangerous, but I showed both my mother and wife that I would take it slow, and the safe way I did my msf course in october and bought my first bike in january.

I know mother and wife is not the same relationship by far.. but in my case they both care and they where both worried about me... I just showed them that I was going the safe route about this...


I don't know what else to say... except

you don't have to tell us how dangerous bikes are...

Bikes are unsafe.. yes... bicycles can get you killed... and on your way out of your house on a wet day you can slip and fall and kill your self... heck! up here not even staying inside the house is safe! it can fall on you!

you dont need a "big bike" or ninja 500 or 250 to kill your self... just walk around your neighbourhood...

what you can do is be smart about it you can either walk around your street wearing dark clothes in the middle of the night while crossing the streets at very unexpected places such as blind turns.. or you can walkin in the middle of the day and only cross at the designated areas...

It is your choice to be safe or not.. you have made yours(what I think is the right choice) and that is what you have to show your wife...

by the way I am 21...
 
#39 ·
zedx11 said:
we aren't married and its not my first bike but it took Tina over 2 months to talk me into getting the new one.
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The payments are only $69 a month, he is doing what he enjoys, I get to ride my bike with no grief :biggrin: , and when I want to get another bike, there will be no bitc#ing involved.

But Sweetheart, I wanted you to get the Zx-14!
 
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